'Irrfan's Strive For Perfection Doesn't Let Me Settle For The Ordinary In Anything'

Actor Irrfan Khan’s family put out an emotional statement in which his wife Sutapa Sikdar and sons Babil, Ayaan pour their hearts out

Team RD Updated: May 1, 2020 16:14:07 IST
'Irrfan's Strive For Perfection Doesn't Let Me Settle For The Ordinary In Anything' Irrfan Khan and family (Photo courtesy Sutapa Sikdar)

One of India’s most versatile actors Irrfan Khan’s death on Wednesday, 29 April, shocked India with an outpouring of grief by people from all walks of life. Khan, who had been ailing for sometime, had been rushed to Mumbai’s Kokilaben Dhirubhai Ambani Hospital on Tuesday, and breathed his last on Wednesday.

His family, led by his wife, Sutapa Sikdar, put out an emotional statement talking about the late actor's outlook on life and the battle with cancer.

Following is the full statement.

"How can I write this as a family statement when the whole world is taking it as a personal loss? How can I begin to feel alone when millions are grieving with us at the moment? I want to assure everyone that this is not a loss, it is a gain. It’s a gain of the things he taught us, and now we shall finally begin to truly implement it and evolve. Yet I want to try to fill in the things that people don’t already know.

It’s unbelievable for us but I would put it in Irrfan’s words, “it’s magical” whether he is there or not there, and that’s what he loved, he never loved one dimensional reality. The only thing I have a grudge against him is; he has spoiled me for life. His strive for perfection doesn’t let me settle for ordinary in anything. There was a rhythm, which he always saw in everything, even in cacophony and chaos, so I have learnt to sing and dance to the music of that rhythm, even with my tone-deaf voice and two left feet. Funnily, our life was a masterclass in acting, so when the dramatic entry of the “uninvited guests” happened, I had by then learnt, to see a harmony in the cacophony.

The doctor’s reports were like scripts, which I wanted to perfect, so I never miss any detail that he sought for in his performance. We met some amazing people in this journey and the list is endless, but there are some whom I have to mention, our oncologist Dr.Nitesh Rohatgi (Max Hospital, Saket) who held our hand in the beginning, Dr. Dan Krell (UK), Dr. Shidravi (UK), my heartbeat and my lantern in the dark Dr. Sevanti Limaye (Kokilaben hospital). It’s difficult to explain what a wondrous, beautiful, overwhelming, painful and exciting this journey has been.

I find this 2 and 1/2 years to have been an interlude, which had it’s own beginning, middle and culmination with Irrfan helming the role of the orchestra conductor, separate from the 35 years of our companionship, ours was not a marriage, it was a union. I see my little family, in a boat, with both my sons Babil and Ayaan, paddling it forward, with Irrfan guiding them “wahan nahi, yahan se modo” but since life is not cinema and there are no retakes, I sincerely wish my children sail this boat safely with their father’s guidance in mind and rockabye through the storm. I asked my children, if possible, they could sum up a lesson taught by their father that has been important to them.

Babil: Learn to surrender to the dance of uncertainty and trust your faith in the universe.

Ayaan: Learn to control your mind and to not let it control you.

Tears will flow as we will plant a raat ki rani tree, his favourite, to the place where you have put him to rest after a victorious journey. It takes time but it will bloom and the fragrance will spread and touch all the souls whom I won’t call them fans but family for years to come."

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