Speaking Tongues

Native languages carry within them a vision of the world we inherit. But can one get to the heart of dreams without one?

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Native languages carry within them a vision of the world we inherit. But can one get to the heart of dreams without one?

When I was pregnant, I considered my state only as a ‘condition’—one that made me hungry and uncomfortable. I did everything to prepare for the arrival of my baby, but did not try to imagine what the person growing inside of me would become. I had one fleeting vision, though: Someday I would take her to see the Sistine Chapel and she would be as awestruck as me. I wanted her to be a good traveller. Ruby* is now five and we are yet to make that trip, but she shares my sense of awe. 

One day as we were walking back home from school, she told me about an episode of The Octonauts. “They were in the Arctic and saw the Northern Lights. Do you know what that is?” She continued, “I saw it and I felt amazed. I would like to see it for real. Can we go there?”

I had always wanted to see the Northern Lights too but had never shared that with her. Do you pass on your dreams to your children? I wondered. But what struck me most was her use of the word ‘amazed’.

At two years old, Ruby babbled expressively but spoke only a few coherent words. I struggled with the idea that perhaps she had a learning disability. I brought it up during a visit to the paediatrician, who considered her for a minute and said, “Nothing to worry about. She has intelligent eyes.” What are intelligent eyes? I wanted to ask. And what do they have to do with speech?

It was only months later that I realized that paediatricians look for signs of spectrum disorders by studying how toddlers respond to eye contact. I disregarded the ‘intelligent eyes’ comment and followed more practical advice. I read to Ruby compulsively, named every object in our path, and enunciated carefully. “To-ma-to,” I would stress holding the fruit in my hand. Ruby would laugh at how funnily I moved my mouth. I persevered with rhymes and stories. And then one fine day, around the age of three, she bega...

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